• Johan Smith

Moody? Helpful?

The Bible warns you to be careful of a hot-tempered person who is easily angered. Proverbs 22: 24-25:


Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared – NIV


You sometimes come across people with whom it’s just pleasant to be with. Their presence is always enriching and nice. Perhaps they don’t even say or do much, it’s just how they are. Then you get people you rather avoid with all your might. Even if you see them approaching in the distance, you’d rather hide or change course to avoid them. It’s as if they make the world and environment a heavy place, almost like pollution: you feel clouded and depressed after being in their company. Nobody likes them, because they’re always cross - and they have the gift to always be heavy-hearted and see the nastiness in others. Such people are also very sparing with grace and forgiveness.


The Bible again simply and clearly warns you: stay away from such people. The chances are good that you’ll become like them and get a label around your neck that says something like: angry and unpleasant. No, seek friendly people who enjoy life to be your true friends.


Most people are scared to be helped. These days many people feel that to ask for help is humiliating and a sign of weakness. It’s a wonderful gesture to help others and according to Galatians 6:2, it is an instruction from the Lord:


Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ – NIV


Move close enough to people so that they will trust you with their problems. What most people however miss in the verse is that the carrying of burdens is two-sided. You cannot carry somebody’s burden if he or she doesn’t want to give it to you. In other words, you must also be weak enough to trust other people with your own weaknesses. There are times that you must swallow your pride during difficult and tough times in your life. You must be able to pause and ask for help. No person is or can be strong all the time. That’s not how it works.


Philippians 2:4 supplements the above perfectly:


Not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others – NIV


In a relationship it isn’t about what you can get out of it, but definitely what you can give to others. The password in life is thus: GIVE!

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